Sexual connection and intimacy can change over time. Whether you are experiencing low desire, mismatched libidos, pain, or a longing for deeper closeness, counselling offers space to explore without judgement.
Together we can examine the emotional, relational, and cultural layers that shape your intimate life.
Everyday signs of intimacy challenges
- Avoiding sexual contact because you worry about disappointing your partner.
- Feeling pressured to perform rather than enjoy the moment.
- Difficulty relaxing due to past trauma or shame-based messages.
- Tension between wanting closeness and fearing vulnerability.
- Navigating desire changes due to health, hormones, or life transitions.
- Questioning your sexual identity or preferences in established relationships.
Why desire issues can feel complex
Intimacy is influenced so many factors including biology, history, relationship dynamics, and societal expectations.
Many people internalise beliefs about what sex "should" look like, leaving little room for authentic expression.
Past traumas, religious messaging, or minority stress can also affect safety and pleasure. Without a supportive environment to unpack these threads, many people stay silent or feel broken.
How counselling nurtures sexual wellbeing
During weekly sessions we build trust so you can speak honestly about your experiences. We focus on what pleasure and connection mean to you, develop communication tools for discussing desire, and explore ways to reconnect with your body. There is no pressure to achieve a specific outcome; the goal is to expand choice and consent.
Approaches we may integrate
- Pluralistic therapy to blend emotional processing with practical communication skills.
- Somatic awareness to help you notice bodily signals around desire and boundaries.
- Trauma-informed practice if past experiences impact your comfort with intimacy.
- Narrative therapy to reframe stories about sexuality and worthiness.
Support for men exploring desire
Men are often expected to feel constant desire, which can cause shame when libido dips or performance anxiety arises. In therapy we normalise these changes, examine pressures from pornography or peer culture, and explore ways to communicate honestly with partners.
Affirming sexual wellbeing for LGBTQ+ clients
Queer and trans people frequently face assumptions about their bodies, pleasure, and relationships. I offer an inclusive space to discuss identity, kink, gender-affirming care, and community dynamics so your intimate life reflects who you are.
Sex and intimacy counselling FAQs
Do we talk about explicit details?
We focus on what feels relevant and comfortable for you. You control how much detail you share at any point.
Can therapy help with mismatched libidos?
We explore the underlying reasons for differences in desire and develop communication strategies you can try together. Every partnership is unique, so we focus on finding approaches that work for both of you.
What if trauma is part of my story?
We move at your pace, integrating trauma-informed approaches and grounding techniques so you remain in control throughout the work.
Next steps
Book a consultation to talk through what is happening in your intimate life. If we decide to work together, you will have a weekly session at the same time, giving you space to explore desire and connection without external pressure.