Anger is a natural emotion, but when it erupts unexpectedly or turns inward it can strain relationships, work, and self-respect.
Counselling offers a space to understand what your anger is signalling and to practise regulating it without losing your voice.
When anger takes over: how it can show up
- Sudden outbursts over small triggers.
- Feeling on edge or irritable for most of the day.
- Turning anger inward, leading to shame or withdrawal.
- Physical signs like clenched jaws, pounding heart, or headaches.
- Relationship ruptures after saying or doing things you regret.
- Numbing out with food, alcohol, or screens to avoid the intensity.
Why anger can build beneath the surface
Anger often masks hurt, fear, or injustice. Many people were not taught how to express these feelings safely, so they bottle them up until they explode. Structural pressures, discrimination, or family patterns can add additional fuel. Without support, the nervous system stays on high alert, ready to react even when you want to respond differently.
How counselling supports emotional regulation
Therapy gives you a consistent moment in your week to explore what anger protects, learn grounding techniques, and develop communication skills that honour your boundaries. Because sessions happen at the same time each week, you have regular opportunities to reflect on triggers and celebrate moments of change.
Approaches we might blend
- Pluralistic therapy to tailor strategies such as cognitive reframing, body awareness, or communication tools.
- EMDR resourcing to reduce intensity when anger stems from past trauma.
- Somatic techniques to notice and soothe physiological cues before they boil over.
- Compassion-focused work to reduce shame and build self-acceptance.
Support for men dealing with anger
Many men receive conflicting messages: be strong, but never lose control. In therapy we unpack these expectations, explore healthier expressions of anger, and look at how relationships and masculinity norms intersect.
Affirming anger work for LGBTQ+ clients
Minority stress, microaggressions, and activism fatigue can create chronic anger. I offer a space where we can validate the anger, explore safe outlets, and ensure you do not have to diminish your identity to feel regulated.
Anger management counselling FAQs
Do you offer structured anger management programmes?
We tailor the work to you rather than following a generic workbook. Together we create strategies that respect your context and commitments.
Can counselling help if I rarely express anger but feel it internally?
We explore what sits beneath internalised anger and consider experiments for expressing it safely at your pace.
Will we practice techniques during sessions?
We can experiment with grounding, visualisation, or communication tools during sessions. You decide what, if anything, to take forward between appointments.
Next steps
Book a consultation to discuss how anger is affecting you. If we begin working together, we will meet weekly at the same time so you can build skills and notice progress in a consistent setting.