"I feel like I’m constantly editing myself. At work, with family, even sometimes with friends. It’s exhausting." (Composite client voice)
Finding a therapist shouldn't mean you have to start by teaching them about your life. Therapy can be a space where you can speak freely, without translating your identity, your relationships, or your community.
Here, you can take a breath. We can untangle what’s feeling heavy, make sense of your experiences, and explore what a life that feels more authentic to you could look like.
An Approach Grounded in Understanding
As a gay cisgender man and a BACP-accredited therapist, my work is shaped by both lived experience and extensive professional training. I hold a postgraduate diploma in Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD) therapy and a Master’s in Gender Studies.
This background means our sessions can be a place where:
- Your identity is the starting point, not a topic for debate.
- We can name the impact of systemic issues like minority stress, microaggressions, and discrimination.
- We work collaboratively and respectfully, honouring your language and your pace.
The focus is not on fixing you, but on creating a space where you can connect with your own strength, joy, and sense of agency. You can read more about my general therapy approaches.
A Space for All Identities in Our Community
The LGBTQIA+ acronym holds a huge diversity of experiences. Our work will always be centred on what matters to you, but the sections below touch on some common themes.
Jump to: Gay men · Lesbian women · Bi folks · Trans men · Trans women · Queer people · Intersex people · Asexual & Aromantic people · Questioning sexuality & identity
For Gay, Bi & Queer Men
Life as a gay, bi, or queer man can involve navigating complex social landscapes. You may feel the pressure of community expectations, the weight of internalised homophobia, or the challenge of building authentic connections in a world that still operates on heteronormative assumptions.
In therapy, we can make space to explore these pressures without judgment. We might talk about the nuances of dating and intimacy, the process of building a chosen family, or the ways you manage your identity in professional settings. This is a place to look at your own patterns and decide what serves you.
For Lesbian & Queer Women
You deserve a therapeutic space where your identity, relationships, and life decisions are understood without needing to be explained. Lesbian and queer women often navigate the dual impact of homophobia and misogyny, which can lead to feelings of invisibility or being misunderstood, even within broader LGBTQIA+ spaces.
We can explore relationship dynamics, the impact of minority stress, or decisions around family and parenting. Whether you are grappling with burnout, setting boundaries, or connecting with your desires, our work will be collaborative, always respecting your values and your language.
For Bisexual & Pansexual People
Being asked to prove or compartmentalise your identity is exhausting. Bisexual and pansexual people often face erasure and monosexism from both straight and queer communities, leading to a profound sense of isolation. You may feel "not queer enough" or "not straight enough" to belong anywhere.
Therapy is a place where your whole, fluid self can exist. We can name the impact of bi-erasure, talk frankly about relationships and disclosure without judgment, and explore the freedom that comes with embracing an identity that resists simple categories. Your experience is valid on its own terms.
For Trans Men & Transmasculine People
Gender-affirming therapy should acknowledge both the euphoria of living authentically and the grind of systemic barriers. This is a space to process all aspects of your experience, from navigating medical transition and healthcare gatekeeping to exploring your relationship with masculinity.
We can talk about what it means to be stealth or out in different settings, and explore intimacy, relationships, and embodiment on your own terms. Our focus will be on building resilience against dysphoria and transphobia while celebrating the strength and joy in your identity.
For Trans Women & Transfeminine People
Your dignity, safety, and right to thrive are central. As a trans woman or transfeminine person, you may face a unique and intense combination of transphobia and misogyny. Therapy can be a supportive space to hold these realities without losing sight of your own agency and worth.
We can explore your transition journey, address the emotional labour of self-advocacy, and work through the impact of discrimination. This is also a space to celebrate your joy, explore your identity with compassion, and cultivate connections that affirm you.
For Queer People
‘Queer’ can be a spacious and political term for many who resist neat labels. If you identify as queer, you might value fluidity, challenge binaries, or define your relationships in ways that sit outside mainstream norms.
This is a space that welcomes relationship styles like consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and kink without pathologising them. We can explore how your queer identity intersects with other parts of your life, like your culture, faith, or politics, creating a life that aligns with your values.
For Intersex People
Being intersex is a natural variation of human biology. I seek to offer a space to process decisions about disclosure, and make sense of your identity on your own terms, separate from medical labels. This is a confidential space to address feelings about your body, relationships, and sense of self with a therapist who understands the importance of bodily autonomy.
For Asexual & Aromantic People
In a world that often assumes everyone wants sexual and romantic relationships (a pressure known as amatonormativity), identifying on the asexual (ace) or aromantic (aro) spectrums can be isolating. You may have been told your feelings are "just a phase" or that you "haven't met the right person yet."
Therapy can be a place to have your identity seen and validated. We can explore the value and legitimacy of all kinds of relationships—platonic, queerplatonic, familial—and work on building self-acceptance. This is a space to affirm that a fulfilling life does not have to include romance or sex.
For Those Questioning Their Identity
You don't need to have it all figured out! Questioning your sexuality, gender, or relationship style is a valid and often courageous process. And for many people, questioning is a constant that they welcome and embrace. That said, there can be pressure to find a label and stick with it, but there is also freedom in allowing yourself time and space to explore.
Therapy offers a quiet, confidential container to sort through feelings, try on different language, and consider how you want to live. We can work with the uncertainty, grieving what you might be letting go of and making room for what feels more true now.
Recognising Minority Stress
Living in a world that wasn't built for you takes a toll. This constant, low-level stress can be hard to spot. You might notice:
- You feel hypervigilant – always scanning rooms or conversations for potential threats or judgement.
- You conceal parts of yourself – avoiding certain topics, changing your pronouns, or hiding a relationship to feel safer.
- You feel isolated – even when you’re with people, there’s a sense of being misunderstood or fundamentally different.
- You have internalised negative messages – struggling with feelings of shame or a belief that you are somehow "less than."
- You feel exhausted – a persistent sense of tiredness that isn't just about lack of sleep.
Working Together
The first step is a brief, informal chat. This is a free, 15-minute video call for you to ask questions and get a sense of whether we are a good fit. There is no obligation to continue.
You can book a chat with me to see how this might feel in practice.
Suitability and Alternatives
This is not an emergency service. My practice is suitable for adults seeking a space for weekly reflection. It may not be the right fit if you are in acute crisis or need urgent support.
If you feel you are at immediate risk, please contact your GP, go to A&E, or call 999. The Samaritans are also available to listen 24/7 on 116 123 (free from any UK phone). If you are outside the UK, please contact local emergency services.